Today, a high school classmate of mine who lives in a different country and haven't seen or heard from her for the past 30 years, wrote me an e-mail that she heard that I have CFS. She has a friend who USED TO have cfs but she GOT OUT OF IT by starting to walk, every day she walked more and more till she was walking for miles and doesn't suffer from CFS any longer. She gave me her contact # so that I can hear first hand how this miracle cure worked. This is about the fourth time that (well meaning) people have told me about others that were "cured' by graded excercise. How am I supposed to respond to this? If I say that this doesn't work for me, they will just think "oh yeah, she is lazy and doesn't want to put in the work - no wonder she is still sick". I am sure that she meant well but now I got myself all worked up and stressed. Why can't i just do the same thing? Did these people really have CFS to begin with? Seemingly, they did. Why does it work for some and for others it makes them crash?