Are you serious, Sue?? You need to check out some menopause forums. Too many women have lost careers/jobs, have watched their marriages fall apart, have their kids turn on them (teens and adult kids), have parents/siblings/friends who don't understand, have to put up with doctors who don't understand, have lost five to 10 years of their lives, as they go through the h*ll of perimenopause/menopause. Sound familiar?? For me, menopause has been much more devastating than CFS/ME has ever been. And not all women ever see an end to their symptoms. My mom has a friend whose symptoms are just as bad now at 79 as they were when she was in her 50s. About 10% of menopausal women will live with this reality.