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Does anyone recognise this reference?

Discussion in 'General ME/CFS Discussion' started by ronddejambe, Nov 26, 2016.

  1. ronddejambe

    ronddejambe

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    Years ago, I think at the time of the Welfare Reform Bill going through, I'm sure I read something by a psychiatrist about how M.E gets one out of chores such as sex or housework (!).

    I can't for the life of me remember who wrote it or find it online. I thought it might have been Wesseley and I vaguely recall it was in a report written by someone like Unum or someone connected to the insurance industry.

    I want to refer to it in a blog post, so if anyone knows what I'm referring to or has a source for it, I'd be so grateful. I could just be inventing it in my foggy head but I really am sure I actually read it

    Thank you!
     
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  2. Valentijn

    Valentijn Senior Member

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    There aren't a lot of professionals who get that disgusting, so it might be someone retired, or a non-professional.

    Maybe Edward Shorter, though he's a Canadian historian who likes to pretend he knows anything about medicine or psychology. Ron Liddle is a nasty one as well, though is a supposed journalist and I don't know if he has any particular psych background. There was also a retired cardiologist from the US who did an ugly rant about ME benefits leeches and managed to take a swipe at MS as well, but I don't remember his name.
     
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  3. ronddejambe

    ronddejambe

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    Thank you. The thing is as far as I recall it was in a report which people wouldn't have expected to be read very widely. So I can see someone being a bit more blunt than they might have been in a newspaper, for example.

    This is driving me crazy. I'm sure I read it. I wish I'd made more effort to save it at the time.
     
  4. TiredSam

    TiredSam The wise nematode hibernates

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    You beat me to it - Shorter would have been my first guess too, seeing as how hung up about sex he is.

    Trying to be helpful, I just googled "Shorter M.E. sex" and the first result was "10 sex tips for when your partner is dramatically taller or shorter than you". I give up.
     
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  5. Skippa

    Skippa Anti-BS

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    When I was at the CFS clinic (the official NHS one) I mentioned that washing the dishes and vacuuming were particularly troublesome becuase they take a toll on one's back causing weakness etc (to which a couple of other members agreed) and the occupational therpist thought it was hilarious to joke "well the other tasks are more enjoyable so it stands to reason". A few eyebrows were raised.
     
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  6. Cheshire

    Cheshire Senior Member

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    I don't know if it's what you're looking for, but it has some similarities.
    Christopher Bass in Atos Magazine, "Symptoms that defy explanation", in 2004, talking about medically unexplained symptoms, in which he explicitelly includes ME:

    *Warning! really upsetting*

    https://issuu.com/maxhead/docs/atos_conference_2004
     
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  7. ronddejambe

    ronddejambe

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    Cheshire I think that might well be it. I'm sure it was someone like Atos who wrote it and that seems really familiar. Thank you.
    It stuck out at the time that a secondary gain might be getting to avoid sex. It seemed so outrageous. It *is* outrageous.

    Thank you everyone for your help.
     
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  8. ronddejambe

    ronddejambe

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    JoanDublin Senior Member

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    shannah Senior Member

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    From the UK and appears that he's written 179 articles over the years.

    Looks like he's done a lot of damage!
     
  11. Invisible Woman

    Invisible Woman Senior Member

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    Maybe he's basing this on his experiences with his own personal relationships. I love and fancy my partner. I would love to be able to have a more physical relationship. Mind you I'd love to be well enough to go back to work too, mind.
     
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  12. ronddejambe

    ronddejambe

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    I'm surprised his name doesn't ring a bell. He's written a lot.

    And I agree. Sex is a good thing, not something I actively want to avoid. It would be laughable if it wasn't so sad
     
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  13. Skippa

    Skippa Anti-BS

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    It has to be said: if one wanted to elicit care, sympathy and concern from family and friends, ME/CFS would be the ABSOLUTE LAST condition to go down with!
     
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    ash0787 Senior Member

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    Cant say this is enough to upset me, in fact its quite entertaining

    " socially unacceptable disability " so he admits its a disability but he doesn't think it is acceptable for people with it to continue to live ?
     

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