So as a teen and college student, many of my friends and classmates are constantly up to something. I'm always getting invites to things and asked what I'm up to. When I return to university, the first thing people will ask is "what did you do over summer break". Many went on (or are currently on) trips around the world, some took on internships, countless hours of work and class, etc. and so far I simply recovered from a major surgery I had (which was a big set back) and worked a light work schedule (no 40+ hours a week like some of my friends) and have been the housekeeper for my family (I'm at home with my parents.) I don't get how I can turn invites down (without wearing out the excuse of being busy with other things, not feeling well, etc.) and explain to them that having endless energy and the basic things people take for granted like being able to stand without getting too dizzy, aren't there for everyone. I typically keep this type stuff to myself and feel awkward talking about it (even with really close friends.) How open is everyone else about their "situation?" I feel like a lot of people assume I'm this boring, depressed person that is making up excuses to avoid whatever they have planned, when really I'd love to attend. I'd love to be at the pool for several hours a day with them, working long hours and doing exciting internships and all that, but I simply can't. It really stung when I was told by my adviser/instructor that I "need to go on a trip" almost as if my lack of adventurism was by choice rather than the miserable reality that I have little choice over. I was so embarrassed and steamy over that one comment--it still lingers in my mind and BUGS ME. I guess I could say that I'm slightly angered by people's assumptions and the difficulty of explaining the truth to them without getting too detailed, as well as the fact that I'm being physically held back from doing things I really want to do. How does everyone else handle issues like this with blissfully unaware friends/colleagues/peers, etc.? Are you upfront with them or leave the reasons behind your "uneventful life" to the imagination?