I've been working strongly on valuing myself, my health and loving myself.
Its taken quite a while to develop into this, rather than pitying myself when i have bad episodes, I have learnt to at least have some control in how i process the world.
Breaking the crystal ball of 'should have done' in the past or 'should do' in the future has been vital for minimising stress.
Breaking the crystal ball of mindreading: that person doesn't like me, that person seems angry at me. And not guessing at other people's intentions.
Living life at my pace: Ok so i do one thing on my to do list in a day, why would i compare myself to others and try and live life at their pace when i get low so easily? I'll take as damn long as i like.
Learning boundaries with people: Wanting to connect with people while im so low is difficult and i've had to learn to connect with myself and provide what i want from others to myself.
If i'm lonely, i listen to myself. If i'm feeling upset i let myself feel upset. If i'm angry, i be angry.
If someone ignores me, i ignore them. If someone is rude to me, i'm entitled to be rude to them. If someone abuses me, i have every right to stand up for myself and abuse back. As I don't go out of my way to give people a hard time, i've found this works well for me. (not always applicable)
Tools for dealing with having CFS
Blog entry posted by Gavman, Jun 24, 2012.
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