The Bright Side

Blog entry posted by hedgehog, Mar 12, 2017.

I just discovered this blog section, and I have to say that there are so many great writers here! I even saved a few snippets that spoke to me, to read when I need them.

I'm going to try to write down all the good things that happened due to becoming ill. I could write a "but" after each thing, but I won't. I want to try looking at the bright side. I may add to the list when my brain is clearer! I hope I can make this as long as possible. Maybe others can think of things they would add.

Illness gave me:

-Time to reflect. When I had to leave college, I wrote down what I'd do differently if I could go back. I went back and was able to use that list.

-More empathy and understanding for others dealing with illness, disability, or old age.

-People that changed my life for the better, including my best friend. If I had to choose between no illness and not meeting her vs. illness and meeting her, I'd probably choose illness and meeting her.

-Time to get to know my parents better.

-The discovery of how kind and accommodating some humans can be.

-Time to write letters to people I cared about.

-Realization of and appreciation for the value of health.

-The opportunity to learn more about myself.

-The vast world of the internet that I can "travel" in.

-The knowledge that I could make it through 9 years of illness.

-A topic to have a deep conversation about with someone.

-Exercises in creativity when working around problems.

-Appreciation for going outside

-Maturity, perhaps beyond my years, about some things.

-Bonding with my grandmothers

-The knowledge that there are people who would still befriend me even if I'm sick.

-Motivation to learn about nutrition

-One sweet Get Well card I remember years later

-Experience knowing what to expect when going to the doctor

-This forum full of people I like and connect with.
  1. hellytheelephant
    Lovely piece of writing. Yes- none of us would volunteer to have this illness, but there are ( sometimes very well hidden ) gifts within this 'new normal'.
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  2. hedgehog
    @bookworm84
    What a nice idea to write down stories your grandparents shared. One of my grandmothers passed away 2 years ago as well, but we had physical therapy in common for several years. I like to look back at the birthday cards she sent. I'm really glad you found something that cheers you up and brings happy memories.

    That's a wonderful story about your headmaster. It reminded me of an instructor I had in grade school who secretly gave a boy passing marks on the mile run when she saw how hard he tried, even though he had asthma and couldn't make the cut. Sometimes people are looking out for us even when we don't know. Thanks for sharing these snippets!
  3. Bookworm84
    I love this! It's great to concentrate on the positive for a while.

    I agree with the maturity one. I think it's made me pretty level headed and practical about things.

    How lovely that it's brought you closer to your grandmothers. I lost the last of my grandparents last year (they were all 90+ years old) and I had started writing down the little stories they shared with me. I love re-reading them as it makes me feel so connected to my family. It cheers me up when I often feel disconnected from others.

    Supportive people are worth their weight in gold! I'm in my 30s and I still remember my headmaster cheering from the side of the pool when I completed my swimming certificate age 10. I'd been very ill with glandular fever (the beginnings of the CFS I would later realise) and he knew how hard it was for me to complete the required length of the pool. He drove down to the See my class swim and walked the entire length level with me clapping and shouting encouragement All these years later it is still one of my fondest memories.
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